Postive Steps to Prepare for a Divorce

Positive Steps to Take to Prepare for a Divorce

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If you are considering divorce or are being forced to think of divorce, you are no doubt wondering what first steps you should take. The financial aspects of breaking the marital bonds are among the most important decisions you will ever make during your lifetime. You have to protect yourself, and that means you have to make financial plans to preserve what you have contributed to the marriage early in the divorce negotiating process - even while the shock is still sinking in. These are assets you have a right to share. Trusting that the legal process will take care of you is the worst assumption you can make

Going through the legal process of getting a divorce is like stepping on an escalator. The escalator doesn't stop. Once you're on, you are going to get off - whether under your own power or by being thrown off by the unrelenting process of the legal system. Ready or not, you will be divorced. As you approach divorce, you will find yourself being dragged up the legal escalator while you must struggle up the emotional staircase on your own. That is a tough balancing act!

Most people need divorce advice. After the legal complexities and emotional nasties have been exhausted, money is what divorce is all about. Money issues are critical when you go through the divorce process. If you ignore them, you will suffer financially. When the divorce is over, regrets won't provide solace for the financial assets you've lost.

First, get a copy of her last three years' income tax returns, current year-end brokerage statements, an employee benefits summary, a recent pay stub, and a joint financial statement, because those files would be important. The importance of having financial data early in a divorce can't be overemphasized.

What should you do first? Your own situation dictates the best answer. When faced with a spouse's demand for a separation or divorce, you may need to first see an attorney in order to respond properly. Even in such a circumstance, you need to begin financial preparations immediately. If you have any questions about how to address these critical issues, see a qualified financial planner as soon as possible.

If your most demanding issues are emotional, and you cannot start being financially practical, take care of yourself. That may mean talking with a therapist, a family counselor, a cleric, or a close personal friend. What is important is that you take a positive self-affirming step rather than go into hiding. As that maxim goes, "A journey of a thousand miles begins with the first step."

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